5 steps to get over a breakup.
It's often thought that coping with a breakup is the same as grieving a loss, so it's not easy. The only difference is that in a breakup, two people separate so they can move on with their lives without the company of the person they used to share everything with. Every person and relationship is different, but everyone has to go through the five stages of getting over a breakup.
Denial and isolation. During the first stage, the person denies reality and lives with great anxiety. They usually act as if everything were the same and have a hard time facing reality. This is a protective reaction that is generally brief. During this stage, it is very important to accept and analyze all emotions to be more objective. This doesn't mean you should analyze what you did right or wrong in your relationship; rather, you should understand the reason for these feelings and channel them into something positive.
Anger and frustration. The second stage is characterized by the normal feeling of anger and rage toward the other person. This is due to the frustration of not being able to return to how they were before and because of everything that has happened. It's also common for people to feel a certain amount of anger toward themselves or the people around them because of their emotional instability. Therefore, during this stage, it's very important not to let yourself be overwhelmed and to understand that many things are beyond your control.
Depression and guilt. In the third stage, the person often loses hope of ever winning back the person they love. They even begin to analyze what went wrong during the relationship, and common fears arise, such as not being able to get over the breakup, never being able to trust or love again, and so on. At this point, it's very important to accept the change and look for the positive side, as they say, "When life gives you lemons, you'll have to put lemons to rest."
Resignation or negotiation? During this stage, everything can change depending on how things are handled, and only you can make the right decision: whether to get closer again or accept that the relationship is over. This isn't an easy situation, but the worst is over. At this stage, it's very important to be objective and define what you truly want in order to make the right decision.
Acceptance. After going through the most difficult stages, the stage begins where you visualize a new future, accept how things are, and don't hold back on what can't be and won't be. Depending on what happened with the other person, a sense of motivation for what's to come in the future appears. Continue working on your self-esteem and learn from this experience.
Denial and isolation. During the first stage, the person denies reality and lives with great anxiety. They usually act as if everything were the same and have a hard time facing reality. This is a protective reaction that is generally brief. During this stage, it is very important to accept and analyze all emotions to be more objective. This doesn't mean you should analyze what you did right or wrong in your relationship; rather, you should understand the reason for these feelings and channel them into something positive.
Anger and frustration. The second stage is characterized by the normal feeling of anger and rage toward the other person. This is due to the frustration of not being able to return to how they were before and because of everything that has happened. It's also common for people to feel a certain amount of anger toward themselves or the people around them because of their emotional instability. Therefore, during this stage, it's very important not to let yourself be overwhelmed and to understand that many things are beyond your control.
Depression and guilt. In the third stage, the person often loses hope of ever winning back the person they love. They even begin to analyze what went wrong during the relationship, and common fears arise, such as not being able to get over the breakup, never being able to trust or love again, and so on. At this point, it's very important to accept the change and look for the positive side, as they say, "When life gives you lemons, you'll have to put lemons to rest."
Resignation or negotiation? During this stage, everything can change depending on how things are handled, and only you can make the right decision: whether to get closer again or accept that the relationship is over. This isn't an easy situation, but the worst is over. At this stage, it's very important to be objective and define what you truly want in order to make the right decision.
Acceptance. After going through the most difficult stages, the stage begins where you visualize a new future, accept how things are, and don't hold back on what can't be and won't be. Depending on what happened with the other person, a sense of motivation for what's to come in the future appears. Continue working on your self-esteem and learn from this experience.
Después de 2 años, todo terminó
El mundo se me está cayendo encima y no se que hacer
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Me pasa que estoy en las 5 etapas!
Yo estoy en una separación de 1 semana a penas y él está feliz y yo sufriendo y él NO me busca para nada, pero aunque me duele lo dejo ver a la niña hasta eso está al pendiente de su hija Pero todos los días me Pienso que solo está con ella un rato y la botara , de nosotros no hablamos , solo lo abandone porque peleabamos demasiado, hice mucho por la relación y sentí que di mucho Pero él siempre me decía que no era suficiente lo que hacía y me harte y me deprimi y cuando caí en depresión fue que lo abandone 😭 NO sé que hacer pero LO ODIO TANTO EN ESTE MIENTRAS, aunque no le quito a su hija pero su actitud arrogante conmigo me hace odiarlo cada dia mas .
Yo estoy pasando mi pero momento no puedo con esta separación más cuando mi nena de 3 años pregunta por su papá 😢
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