5 steps to get over a breakup.
It's often thought that coping with a breakup is the same as grieving a loss, so it's not easy. The only difference is that in a breakup, two people separate so they can move on with their lives without the company of the person they used to share everything with. Every person and relationship is different, but everyone has to go through the five stages of getting over a breakup.
Denial and isolation. During the first stage, the person denies reality and lives with great anxiety. They usually act as if everything were the same and have a hard time facing reality. This is a protective reaction that is generally brief. During this stage, it is very important to accept and analyze all emotions to be more objective. This doesn't mean you should analyze what you did right or wrong in your relationship; rather, you should understand the reason for these feelings and channel them into something positive.
Anger and frustration. The second stage is characterized by the normal feeling of anger and rage toward the other person. This is due to the frustration of not being able to return to how they were before and because of everything that has happened. It's also common for people to feel a certain amount of anger toward themselves or the people around them because of their emotional instability. Therefore, during this stage, it's very important not to let yourself be overwhelmed and to understand that many things are beyond your control.
Depression and guilt. In the third stage, the person often loses hope of ever winning back the person they love. They even begin to analyze what went wrong during the relationship, and common fears arise, such as not being able to get over the breakup, never being able to trust or love again, and so on. At this point, it's very important to accept the change and look for the positive side, as they say, "When life gives you lemons, you'll have to put lemons to rest."
Resignation or negotiation? During this stage, everything can change depending on how things are handled, and only you can make the right decision: whether to get closer again or accept that the relationship is over. This isn't an easy situation, but the worst is over. At this stage, it's very important to be objective and define what you truly want in order to make the right decision.
Acceptance. After going through the most difficult stages, the stage begins where you visualize a new future, accept how things are, and don't hold back on what can't be and won't be. Depending on what happened with the other person, a sense of motivation for what's to come in the future appears. Continue working on your self-esteem and learn from this experience.
Denial and isolation. During the first stage, the person denies reality and lives with great anxiety. They usually act as if everything were the same and have a hard time facing reality. This is a protective reaction that is generally brief. During this stage, it is very important to accept and analyze all emotions to be more objective. This doesn't mean you should analyze what you did right or wrong in your relationship; rather, you should understand the reason for these feelings and channel them into something positive.
Anger and frustration. The second stage is characterized by the normal feeling of anger and rage toward the other person. This is due to the frustration of not being able to return to how they were before and because of everything that has happened. It's also common for people to feel a certain amount of anger toward themselves or the people around them because of their emotional instability. Therefore, during this stage, it's very important not to let yourself be overwhelmed and to understand that many things are beyond your control.
Depression and guilt. In the third stage, the person often loses hope of ever winning back the person they love. They even begin to analyze what went wrong during the relationship, and common fears arise, such as not being able to get over the breakup, never being able to trust or love again, and so on. At this point, it's very important to accept the change and look for the positive side, as they say, "When life gives you lemons, you'll have to put lemons to rest."
Resignation or negotiation? During this stage, everything can change depending on how things are handled, and only you can make the right decision: whether to get closer again or accept that the relationship is over. This isn't an easy situation, but the worst is over. At this stage, it's very important to be objective and define what you truly want in order to make the right decision.
Acceptance. After going through the most difficult stages, the stage begins where you visualize a new future, accept how things are, and don't hold back on what can't be and won't be. Depending on what happened with the other person, a sense of motivation for what's to come in the future appears. Continue working on your self-esteem and learn from this experience.
Hace 11 años me enamoré, esa persona estuvo conmigo cuando enfermé de cáncer y estuvo conmigo hasta recuperarme. Todo fluyó muy bien por 3 años hasta que la relación se volvió obsesiva y hubo violencia en ella. Decidió irse a trabajar lejos, la relación a distancia no funcionó, yo la amé demasiado y no quería dejarla, pero empecé a tener crisis de personalidad y ya no me sentía yo, romper con ella fue lo más sano, pero no lo que yo deseaba. Nunca la olvidé y hasta ahora no lo he hecho; el problema es no poder sentir nuevamente el amor en otra persona o dar ese amor que le dí a ella, me siento insegura y cada que intento salir con alguien ella viene a mi mente. No puedo olvidarla y ya no se que hacer, quiero enamorarme y tener a alguien a mi lado. Siento que ella se llevó todo de mí.
Soy luz hace dos dias corri a mi esposo por que le encontre msj con su ex ne duele mucvo esto!
Hace 10 días mi esposo me dejó alegando que ya no se sentía cómodo conmigo,por más que quise hablar con el y arreglar la situación el no cedió, ahora estoy pasando por un momento muy difícil, lo extraño, lo amo , lloro mucho aún no puedo asimilar que ya terminó todo y no quiero sufrir no me lo merezco.
Hace tiempo. No me siento bien con la persona que pensé pasar toda la vida aun no estoy separada pero cada día pienso más en dejar esta relación tengo una niña de 3 años y una bebita de 2 meses, mi esposo trabaja 12 horas continuas y ese siempre es su pretexto para dormir, descansar, estar en el celular y no pasar tiempo el tiempo suficiente en familia no me quiere ayudar con mis hijas, a hacer labores domésticas y tampoco me hace sentir amada si no fuera por mi que de doy besos o hago carisias el no me toca ni siquiera tengo miedo en quedarme sola con mis hijas y dejar de lado 12 años de estar con el pero aun no tengo el valor suficiente de terminar esta relación ayúdenme ¿qué hago?
hace tres semanas me terminaron estoy en la etapa 3, yo ame quise bastante a mi pareja trate de hablar con ella e incluso sin tener la culpa yo lo acepte mis errores, pero ella jamás acepto ni se disculpo por lo que hizo, me ofendió e incluso me golpeo me comparo con su ex y me sentí morir por todo lo que me hizo, pero emtendi que ella jamas me amo creo fui su salida al no superar a su ex
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