Ghosting the art of ignoring in a relationship.
Relationships are hard. They're an emotional roller coaster that we all secretly wish would just go up and up, but that's not life and that's not love. Dating—sometimes it doesn't even need that title—is a journey of two people committed to each other, but sometimes one partner isn't as invested as the other. Whether you're dating or not, sometimes the other person simply disappears from your life without any explanation.
What is it?
That's what ghosting is: disappearing from someone else's life, as if you'd died, as if you were a ghost. It's usually attributed to people who are in a relationship or about to start dating, but ghosting someone doesn't have any age restrictions or restrictions depending on the type of relationship you have with the other person.
In this age of technology and social media, the most common thing is to be deleted from them all, to not answer your messages or calls, to remove likes or comments from your posts. Sometimes they don't just leave without saying why; sometimes they try to pretend they never existed. This is possibly the most painful variant, because they can never take away your memories, but they can erase all traces of evidence. As if it were grief or regret.
What kills you is uncertainty. What did I do to deserve this? Did I do something wrong? And…
Why would someone do that to me?
The person leaves without explanation, the victim feels guilty, and their self-esteem is destroyed. They feel humiliated, confused, and hurt. And the unanswered question always echoes in our heads: Why?
There's no universal answer; it all depends on the person, the circumstance, the context, etc. Only you can know why it happened, and this is a double-edged sword because constantly dwelling on negative thoughts that hurt you isn't the healthiest thing to do, and unfortunately, sometimes you won't find an answer even then. This can be due to indecision or a lack of information—because even though you were part of the relationship, sometimes that's not enough. Sometimes people make hasty decisions, guided largely by their instincts or impulses.
The truth is, at the end of the day, you'll have nothing but theories in your head, and the healthiest thing to do is to stop thinking about it. Because the only way to know for sure what happened is to talk to the other person and have them tell you their reasons.
How do I overcome it?
It's a difficult task, but you have to take an introspective journey and reflect a lot on your successes and failures. This isn't something new; although the term originated in the early 2000s, ghosting is a technique that has been used for generations because, in essence, ghosting someone is simply cutting them out of your life, ignoring them, and not offering explanations. Regardless of social media and the like, the point is to disappear; that's something eternal, timeless.
There's no single, set-in-stone way to get through this; it varies from person to person. For some, it'll help to not think about it and simply move on, forget. Others will need an answer and won't sleep until they get it. There are some people who might not even care, and that's the problem.
Just because you ghost someone doesn't mean you're automatically the bad guy. In some rare cases, there might not even be a villain. You might be letting go of a part of your life that's only hurting you. A toxic person or relationship to whom you don't owe any kind of explanation. It could also be that the person you ghosted didn't become as attached or attached as the other person; perhaps they decided to leave before "wasting" any more time.
It's painful, yes, but we have to hold our heads high and reflect on ourselves and the situation, always trying to move forward, always improving.
What is it?
That's what ghosting is: disappearing from someone else's life, as if you'd died, as if you were a ghost. It's usually attributed to people who are in a relationship or about to start dating, but ghosting someone doesn't have any age restrictions or restrictions depending on the type of relationship you have with the other person.
In this age of technology and social media, the most common thing is to be deleted from them all, to not answer your messages or calls, to remove likes or comments from your posts. Sometimes they don't just leave without saying why; sometimes they try to pretend they never existed. This is possibly the most painful variant, because they can never take away your memories, but they can erase all traces of evidence. As if it were grief or regret.
What kills you is uncertainty. What did I do to deserve this? Did I do something wrong? And…
Why would someone do that to me?
The person leaves without explanation, the victim feels guilty, and their self-esteem is destroyed. They feel humiliated, confused, and hurt. And the unanswered question always echoes in our heads: Why?
There's no universal answer; it all depends on the person, the circumstance, the context, etc. Only you can know why it happened, and this is a double-edged sword because constantly dwelling on negative thoughts that hurt you isn't the healthiest thing to do, and unfortunately, sometimes you won't find an answer even then. This can be due to indecision or a lack of information—because even though you were part of the relationship, sometimes that's not enough. Sometimes people make hasty decisions, guided largely by their instincts or impulses.
The truth is, at the end of the day, you'll have nothing but theories in your head, and the healthiest thing to do is to stop thinking about it. Because the only way to know for sure what happened is to talk to the other person and have them tell you their reasons.
How do I overcome it?
It's a difficult task, but you have to take an introspective journey and reflect a lot on your successes and failures. This isn't something new; although the term originated in the early 2000s, ghosting is a technique that has been used for generations because, in essence, ghosting someone is simply cutting them out of your life, ignoring them, and not offering explanations. Regardless of social media and the like, the point is to disappear; that's something eternal, timeless.
There's no single, set-in-stone way to get through this; it varies from person to person. For some, it'll help to not think about it and simply move on, forget. Others will need an answer and won't sleep until they get it. There are some people who might not even care, and that's the problem.
Just because you ghost someone doesn't mean you're automatically the bad guy. In some rare cases, there might not even be a villain. You might be letting go of a part of your life that's only hurting you. A toxic person or relationship to whom you don't owe any kind of explanation. It could also be that the person you ghosted didn't become as attached or attached as the other person; perhaps they decided to leave before "wasting" any more time.
It's painful, yes, but we have to hold our heads high and reflect on ourselves and the situation, always trying to move forward, always improving.
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