Proof of love.
We're not referring to what was once known as proof of love, but rather to the constant signs one displays when in love or in a relationship. Today's blog will discuss a couple of things that show you're committed to or mesmerized by love for the other person.
Fake:
For those who don't know, the "original" proof of love was to consummate the relationship through sexual intercourse. This is how women were typically told to demonstrate their love for their partner, for their man. It's a practice that has gradually disappeared, and for the better, since it is a sexist and chauvinistic practice.
It doesn't demonstrate true love, but rather solidifies the idea of patriarchy and machismo in modern times.
In love:
Now focusing on less harmful things, and I mean less, I'll explain why in a moment, there are a couple of things we do, say, or think when we fall in love.
A person in love can prioritize the other person above all else. They prioritize their own benefits—happiness, health, etc.—first. Even leaving themselves behind, or maybe not behind, but still aside. Something you learn with age and experience is that no one should occupy the first step of the pyramid except you.
You must always be your number one priority, at all times, in all places, above all others. There are key circumstances in life, critical or defining moments, in which one can choose to be more humanitarian and look out for the good of others above one's own, but that depends on the type of person you are and the situation you find yourself in.
Another way you know you're in love is when you're just beginning to fall in love and all you want to do is be with that special someone 24/7. You simply don't want to leave their side of the family, sometimes even turning down outings with friends or family.
This goes hand in hand with the previous point: prioritize. We know you're in love; it's a beautiful feeling and brings a lot of happiness. But as relationships go on, after falling in love several times, watching your friends do it, or hearing their stories, you'll realize that it's not at all healthy to shut yourself off from other people and spend time solely with your crush.
It's something you'll realize over the years, and while you'll never lack the desire to do both of the points mentioned here, having self-control and good decision-making is key to a healthy relationship.
Engaged:
Falling in love, from a biochemical perspective, is a chemical reaction that occurs in the brain. A substance called phenylethylamine is released, which forces the release of dopamine, producing a natural state of euphoria when we're with our special someone. This lasts an average of six months.
After all this, you'll decide whether or not to commit to the other person, whether you're right for each other, and whether you'll accept each other's flaws and mistakes.
This is the true test of love: accepting each other as they are, leaving behind the idealization of their partner and seeing each other truly in their natural state.
The infatuation phase is a beautiful and almost "perfect" stage, at least for both parties involved, but once we pass that stage and face reality, that's when we can begin to love properly. Accepting one another and overcoming adversity together, as a true couple.
Fake:
For those who don't know, the "original" proof of love was to consummate the relationship through sexual intercourse. This is how women were typically told to demonstrate their love for their partner, for their man. It's a practice that has gradually disappeared, and for the better, since it is a sexist and chauvinistic practice.
It doesn't demonstrate true love, but rather solidifies the idea of patriarchy and machismo in modern times.
In love:
Now focusing on less harmful things, and I mean less, I'll explain why in a moment, there are a couple of things we do, say, or think when we fall in love.
A person in love can prioritize the other person above all else. They prioritize their own benefits—happiness, health, etc.—first. Even leaving themselves behind, or maybe not behind, but still aside. Something you learn with age and experience is that no one should occupy the first step of the pyramid except you.
You must always be your number one priority, at all times, in all places, above all others. There are key circumstances in life, critical or defining moments, in which one can choose to be more humanitarian and look out for the good of others above one's own, but that depends on the type of person you are and the situation you find yourself in.
Another way you know you're in love is when you're just beginning to fall in love and all you want to do is be with that special someone 24/7. You simply don't want to leave their side of the family, sometimes even turning down outings with friends or family.
This goes hand in hand with the previous point: prioritize. We know you're in love; it's a beautiful feeling and brings a lot of happiness. But as relationships go on, after falling in love several times, watching your friends do it, or hearing their stories, you'll realize that it's not at all healthy to shut yourself off from other people and spend time solely with your crush.
It's something you'll realize over the years, and while you'll never lack the desire to do both of the points mentioned here, having self-control and good decision-making is key to a healthy relationship.
Engaged:
Falling in love, from a biochemical perspective, is a chemical reaction that occurs in the brain. A substance called phenylethylamine is released, which forces the release of dopamine, producing a natural state of euphoria when we're with our special someone. This lasts an average of six months.
After all this, you'll decide whether or not to commit to the other person, whether you're right for each other, and whether you'll accept each other's flaws and mistakes.
This is the true test of love: accepting each other as they are, leaving behind the idealization of their partner and seeing each other truly in their natural state.
The infatuation phase is a beautiful and almost "perfect" stage, at least for both parties involved, but once we pass that stage and face reality, that's when we can begin to love properly. Accepting one another and overcoming adversity together, as a true couple.
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